Thursday, March 24, 2011

Listening & Deciding

One of the great things to be learned is listening. Listen very silently. Just don’t listen indifferently. Don’t listen as if you want them to stop and you are just listening to be polite because they are your
friends. It is better in that case to tell them not to say anything because you are not in the mood to listen.
But if you are listening, really listen, be open, because they may be right. And even if they are wrong,listening to them will enrich you. You will know more sides of the same thing, more viewpoints, and it is always good to learn. So listen well but always decide on your own. Once a person has this relative understanding and drops absolute nonsense, things become very clear and easy. Otherwise people are very absolutistic. They think in terms of absolutes: this is truth and whatsoever is against it, is wrong. This has crippled the whole earth – Hindus and Mohammedans and Christians fighting because everybody claims the absolute truth. Nobody has
any claim on it. It is nobody’s monopoly.
Truth is vast. Infinite are its facets and infinite are the ways to know it. And whatsoever we know is limited; it is just a part.
Never claim for the part as if it is the whole and then you will never be in trouble. Watch every word that you speak. Our language is such, our ways of speaking are such, that knowingly, unknowingly, we make absolute statements. Never do that. Use ’perhaps’ more. Hesitate more. Use ’maybe’,
’perhaps’ more, and allow the other every freedom to decide on his own.
Try it for one month. You will have to be very alert, because it is a deep-rooted habit, but if one is alert it can be dropped. Then you will see that arguments drop and then there is no need to defend.
And always remember that it is possible that tomorrow you may think something was wrong, but you have changed.
That’s why I say that repentance is impossible. The person who committed it is not the person who is repenting. They are two different moments, absolutely atomic and unconnected. So there is no point in repenting. There is no point in thinking again and again about the past. What has happened has happened. Whatsoever you think now is not the point.
[Osho said that it was just as when one was sitting for an examination. Once outside the room, when one was more relaxed, collected, one could review and repent for what one had done, but in the moment you were answering the paper, you were doing what was right in that moment.]

So each moment has its own validity. No other moment can cancel it. You cannot cancel the past. Whatsoever you did in that moment was right in that moment. It was meant to be so. It was all that could happen and it happened; otherwise was not possible. You being you it was going to happen that way. So now there is no point in crying and weeping and repenting over it. Now you are more experienced. Next time remain alert so that the old thing is not repeated, that’s all.
For one month, try, and then tell me. There is nothing to be worried about.

Friday, March 18, 2011

Little Life's Instructions...............

1. Compliment three people every day.
2. Have a dog.
3. Watch a sunrise at least once a year.
4. Remember other people's birthdays.
5. Never mention being on a diet.
6. Have a firm handshake.
7. Look people in the eye.
8. Say "thank you" a lot.
9. Say "please" a lot.
10. Learn to play a musical instrument.

11. Sing in the shower.
12. Use the good silver.
13. Learn a card trick.
14. Plant flowers every spring.
15. Own a great stereo system.
16. Be the first to say, "Hello."
17. Live beneath your means.
18. Drive inexpensive cars, but own the best house you can afford.
19. Buy great books even if you never read them.
20. Be forgiving of yourself and others.
21. Learn three clean jokes.
22. Wear polished shoes.
23. Floss your teeth.
24. Drink champagne for no reason at all.
25. Ask for a raise when you feel you've earned it.
26. If in a fight, hit first and hit hard.
27. Return all things you borrow.
28. Teach some kind of class.
29. Be a student in some kind of class.
30. Never buy a house without a fireplace.

31. Buy whatever kids are selling on card tables in their front yards.
32. Once in your life own a convertible.
33. Treat everyone you meet like you want to be treated.
34. Learn to identify the music of Chopin, Mozart, and Beethoven.
35. Plant a tree on your birthday.
36. Donate two pints of blood every year.
37. Make new friends but cherish the old ones.
38. Keep secrets.
39. Take lots of snapshots.
40. Take a kid to the zoo.

41. Don't postpone joy.
42. Write "thank you" notes promptly.
43. Never give up on anybody. Miracles happen every day.
44. Show respect for teachers.
45. Show respect for police officers and firefighters.
46. Give thanks before every meal.
47. Don't waste time learning the "tricks of the trade." Instead, learn the trade.
48. Keep a tight rein on your temper.
49. Buy vegetables from truck farmers who advertise with hand-lettered signs.
50. Put the cap back on the toothpaste.
51. Take out the garbage without being told.
52. Avoid overexposure to the sun.
53. Vote.
54. Surprise loved ones with little unexpected gifts.
55. Stop blaming others. Take responsibility for every area of your life.
56. Save ten percent of what you earn.
57. Make the best of bad situations.
58. Always accept an outstretched hand.
59. Live so that when your children think of fairness, caring, and integrity, they think of
60. Admit your mistakes.

61. Ask someone to pick up your mail and daily paper when you're out of town. Those
are the first two things potential burglars look for.
62. Use your wit to amuse, not abuse.
63. Remember that all news is biased.
64. Take a photography course.
65. Let people pull in front of you when you're stopped in traffic.
66. Don't make the same mistake twice.
67. Demand excellence and be willing to pay for it.
68. Be brave. Even if you're not, pretend to be. No one can tell the difference.
69. Whistle.
70. Hug children after you discipline them.
71. Learn to make something beautiful with your hands.
72. Give to charity all the clothes you haven't worn during the past three years.
73. Never forget your anniversary.
74. Eat prunes.
75. Ride a bike.

76. Choose a charity in your community and support it generously with your time and
77. Don't take good health for granted.
78. When someone wants to hire you, even if it's for a job you have little interest in, talk
to them. Never close the door on an opportunity until you've had a chance to hear
the offer in person.
79. Don't mess with drugs, and don't associate with those who do.
80. Slow dance.
81. Avoid sarcastic remarks.
82. Steer clear of restaurants with strolling musicians.
83. In business and in family relationships, remember that the most important thing is

84. Forget the Joneses.
85. Never encourage anyone to become a lawyer.
86. Don't smoke.
87. Even if you're financially well-to-do, have your children earn and pay part of their
college tuition.
88. Even if you're financially well-to-do, have your children earn and pay for all their
automobile insurance.
89. Recycle old newspapers, bottles, and cans.
90. Refill ice cube trays.
91. Don't let anyone ever see you tipsy.
92. Never invest more in the stock market than you can afford to lose.
93. Choose your life's mate carefully. From this one decision will come ninety percent of
all your happiness or misery.
94. Make it a habit to do nice things for people who'll never find out.
95. Attend class reunions.
96. Lend only those books you never care to see again.
97. Always have something beautiful in sight, even if it's just a daisy in a jelly glass.
98. Know how to type.
99. Think big thoughts, but relish small pleasures.
100. Never buy a beige car.

Monday, February 28, 2011


"I have missed more than 9000 shots in my career.
I have Lost almost 300 games. On 26 occasions I have
entrusted to take the game winning shot... and I missed.
I have failed over and over and over again in my life and
that's precisely why I succeed."
-Michael Jordan

Monday, January 10, 2011

A Quotation to Live By:

'This day I will make the best day of my life. This day I will drink every minute to its full. I will savor its taste and give thanks. I will make every hour count and each minute I will trade only to something of value. I will labor harder than ever before and push my muscles until they cry for relief and then I will continue. Each minute of today will be more fruitful than hours of yesterday. My last minute must be my best.'

'As we grow up, we learn that even the person that wasn't ever supposed to let us down probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others heart. You'll fight with your best friends or may be even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and life comes with no guarantees, you just have to live life freely tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak off, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt and smile when until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back.'

Wednesday, May 19, 2010

Sucess Secrets

16. Make an effort to be humorous throughout the day. Not only is
it beneficial from a physical viewpoint but it diffuses tension in
difficult circumstances and creates an excellent atmosphere wherever
you are. It was recently reported that members of the Tauripan tribe of
South America have a ritual where they awake in the middle of the
night to tell each other jokes. Even tribesmen in the deepest sleep
wake to enjoy the laugh and then return to their state of slumber in

17. Become a highly disciplined time manager. There are roughly
168 hours in a week. This surely allows plenty of time for achievement
of the many goals we desire to accomplish. Be ruthless with your time.
Set aside a few minutes each morning to plan your day. Plan around
your priorities and focus on not only those tasks which are immediate
but not important (i.e., many telephone calls) but especially on those
which are important but not urgent, for these allow for the greatest
personal and professional development. Important but not immediate
activities are those which produce long-term, sustainable benefits and
include exercise, strategic planning, the development of relationships
and professional education. Never let the things which matter most be
placed in the backseat as compared to those that matter least.
18. Associate only with positive, focused people who you can learn
from and who will not drain your valuable energy with complaining
and uninspiring attitudes. By developing relationships with those
committed to constant improvement and the pursuit of the best that
life has to offer, you will have plenty of company on your path to the
top of whatever mountain you seek to climb.

19. Stephen Hawking, one of the great modern physicists of the
world, is reported to have said that we are on a minor planet of a very
average star located within the outer limits of one of a hundred
thousand million galaxies. Are your problems really significant in light
of this? You walk this Earth for but a short time. Why not become
devoted to having only a wonderful experience. Why not dedicate
yourself to leaving a powerful legacy to the world? Sit down now and
write out a list of all that you have in your life. Start first with your
health or your family - the things we often take for granted. Put down
the country we live in and the food we eat. Do not stop until you have
written down fifty items. Once every few days, go through this list -
you will be uplifted and recognize the richness of your existence.

20. You must have a mission statement in life. This is simply a set of
guiding principles which clearly state where you are going and where
you want to be at the end of your life. A mission statement embodies
your values. It is your personal lighthouse keeping you steadily on the
course of your dreams. Over a period of one month, set a few hours
aside to write down five or ten principles which will govern your life
and which will keep you focused at all times. Examples might be to
consistently serve others, to be a considerate citizen, to become highly
wealthy or to serve as a powerful leader. Whatever the mission
statement of your life, refine it and review it regularly. Then when
something adverse happens or someone tries to pull you off course, you
quickly and precisely return to your chosen path with the full
knowledge that you are moving in the direction that you have

21. No one can insult or hurt you without your permission. One of
the golden keys to happiness and great success is the way you interpret
events which unfold before you. Highly successful people are master
interpreters. People who have attained greatness have an ability which
they have developed to interpret negative or disempowering events as
positive challenges which will assist them in growing and moving even
farther up the ladder of success. There are no negative experiences
only experiences which aid in your development and toughen your
character so that you may soar to new heights. There are no failures,
only lessons.

22. Take a speed reading course. Reading is a powerful way to gain
many years of experience from a few hours of study. For example, most
biographies reflect the strategies and philosophies of great leaders or
courageous individuals. Read them and model them. Speed reading
will allow you to digest large quantities of material in relatively small
periods of time.

23. Remember people’s names and treat everyone well. This habit,
along with enthusiasm, is one of the great success secrets. Everyone in
this world wears an imaginary button that screams out “I WANT TO

24. Be soft as a flower when it comes to kindness but tough as
thunder when it comes to principle. Be courteous and polite at all
times but never be pushed around. Ensure that you are always treated
with respect.

25. Never discuss your health, wealth and other personal matters
with anyone outside of your immediate family. Be very disciplined in
this regard.

26. Be truthful, patient, persevering, modest and generous.

27. Soak in a warm bath at the end of a long, productive day. Reward
yourself for even the smallest of achievement. Take time out for
renewal of your mind, body and spirit. Soon all your more important
goals will be met and you will move to the next level of peak

28. Learn the power of breathing and its relationship with your
energy source. The mind is intimately connected with your breathing.
For example, when the mind is agitated, your breathing becomes quick
and shallow. When you are relaxed and focused, your breathing is deep
and calm. By practising deep, abdominal breathing, you will develop a
calm, serene demeanour that will remain cool in the hottest of
circumstances. Remember the rule of the Eastern mountain men: “to
breathe properly is to live properly.”
29. Recognize and cultivate the power of autosuggestion. It works
and is an essential tool in maintaining peak performance. We are all
performers in one way or another and it is particularly valuable to use
such techniques of athletes and public figures for our own
enhancement. If you want to become more enthusiastic, repeat “I am
more enthusiastic today and am improving this trait daily”. Repeat it
over and over. Purchase a legal notepad and write out this mantra 500
times. Do it for three weeks with regular practice and feel that this
quality is developing. Very soon it will come. This is a strategy that
Indian sages have employed for thousands of years to aid their spiritual
and mental development. Do not be discouraged if the results are not
immediate, they will certainly develop. The spoken word is a powerful
influencer of the mind.

30. Maintain a diary to measure your progress and to express your
thoughts. Writing out not only your successes but your troubles is one
of the world’s most effective methods of erasing the worry habit,
staying in optimum state and developing precision of thought.

Monday, May 17, 2010


Throughout the day we all get inspiration and excellent ideas.
Keep a set of cardsin your wallet along with a pencil to jot down these
insights. When you get home, put the ideas in a central place such as
a coil notepad and review them from time to time. As noted by Oliver
Wendell Holmes: “Man’s mind, once stretched by a new idea, never
regains its original dimensions.”
7. Set aside every Sunday evening for yourself and be strongly
disciplined with this habit. Use this period to plan your week, visualize
your encounters and what you want to achieve, to read new materials
and inspirational books, to listen to soft soothing music and to simply
relax. This habit will serve as your anchor to keep you focused,
motivated and effective throughout the coming week.
8. Always remember the key principle that the quality of your life
is the quality of your communication. This means the way you
communicate with others and, more importantly, the way you
communicate with yourself. What you focus on is what you get. If you
look for the positive this is what you get. This is a fundamental law of
9. Stay on purpose, not on outcome. In other words, do the task
because it is what you love to do or because it will help someone or is
a valuable exercise. Don’t do it for the money or the recognition.
Those will come naturally. This is the way of the world.
10. Laugh for five minutes in the mirror each morning. Steve Martin
does. Laughter activates many beneficial chemicals within the body
that place us into a very joyous state. Laughter also returns the body to
a state of balance. Laughter therapy has been regularly used to heal
persons with varied ailments and is a wonderful tonic for life’s ills.
While the average 4 year old laughs 500 times a day, the average adult
is lucky to laugh 15 times a day. Revitalize the habit of laughter, it will
put far more living into your life.
11. Light a candle beside you when you are reading in the evening.
It is most relaxing and creates a wonderful, soothing atmosphere.
Make your home an oasis from the frenzied world outside. Fill it with
great music, great books and great friends.
12. To enhance your concentration and powers of focus, count your
steps when you walk. This is a particularly strong technique. Take six
steps while taking a long inhale, hold your breath for another six steps,
and then exhale for six steps. If six steps is too long for the breaths, do
whatever you feel comfortable with. You will feel very alert, refreshed,
internally quiet and centered after this exercise. So many people allow
their minds to be filled with mental chatter. All peak performers
appreciate the power of a quiet, clear mind which will concentrate
steadily on all important tasks.
13. Learn to meditate effectively. The mind is naturally a very noisy
machine which wants to move from one subject to another like an
unchained monkey. One must learn to restrain and discipline it if one
is to achieve anything of substance and to be peaceful. Meditation for
twenty minutes in the morning and twenty minutes in the evening
will certainly provide you with exceptional results if regularly practiced
for six months. Learned sages of the East have been advancing the
many benefits of meditation for over 5000 years.
14. Learn to be still. The average person doesn’t spend even 30
minutes a month in total silence and tranquility. Develop the skill of
sitting quietly, enjoying the powerful silence for at least ten minutes a
day. Simply think about what is important to you in your life. Reflect
on your mission. Silence indeed is golden. As the Zen master once
said, it is the space between the bars that holds the cage.
15. Enhance your will-power; it is likely one of the best training
programs you can invest in. Here are some ideas to strengthen your
will and become a stronger person:
a) Do not let your mind float like a piece of paper in the wind.
Work hard to keep it focused at all times. When doing a task, think of
nothing else. When walking to work, count the steps that it takes to
get all the way to the office. This is not easy but your mind will soon
understand that you hold its reins and not vice versa. Your mind must
eventually become as still as a candle flame in a corner where there is
no draft.
b) Your will is like a muscle. You must first exercise it and then
push before it gets stronger. This necessarily involves short term pain
but be assured that the improvements will come and will touch your
character in a most positive way. When you are hungry, wait another
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hour before your meal. When you are labouring over a difficult task
and your mind is prompting you to pick up the latest magazine for a
break or to get up and go talk to a friend, curb the impulse. Soon you
will be able to sit for hours in a precisely concentrated state. Sir Issac
Newton, one of the greatest classical physicists the world has
produced, once said: “if I have done the public any service, it is due to
patient thought.” Newton had a remarkable ability to sit quietly and
think without interruption for very long periods of time. If he can
develop this so can you.
c) You can also build your will-power by restraint in your conduct
with others. Speak less (use the 60/40 Rule = listen 60% of the time
and speak a mere 40%, if that). This will not only make you more
popular but you will learn much wisdom as everyone we meet, every
day has something to teach us. Also restrain the urge to gossip or to
condemn someone who you feel has made a mistake. Stop
complaining and develop a cheerful, vital and strong personality. You
will greatly influence others.
d) When a negative thought comes to your mind, immediately
replace it with one that is positive. Positive always dominates over the
negative and your mind has to be conditioned to think only the best
thoughts. Negative thinking is a conditioned process whereby the
negative patterns are established over and over. Rid yourself of any
limitations and become a powerful positive thinker.


2. Set aside one hour every morning for personal development
matters. Meditate, visualize your day, read inspirational texts to set the
tone of your day, listen to motivational tapes or read great literature.
Take this quiet period to vitalize and energize your spirit for the
productive day ahead. Watch the sun rise once a week or be with
nature. Starting the day off well is a powerful strategy for self-renewal
and personal effectiveness.
3. Do not allow those things that matter the most in your life be at
the mercy of activities that matter the least. Every day, take the time
to ask yourself the question “is this the best use of my time and
energy?” Time management is life management so guard your time
with great care.
4. Use the rubber band method to condition your mind to focus
solely on the most positive elements in your life. Place a rubber band
around your wrist. Each time a negative, energy sapping thought enters
your mind, snap the rubber band. Through the power of conditioning,
your mind will associate pain with negative thinking and you will soon
possess a strongly positive mindset.
5. Always answer the phone with enthusiasm in your voice and
show your appreciation for the caller. Good phone manners are
essential. To convey authority on the line, stand up. This will instill
further confidence in your voice.